Ugh. I am so sick of hearing people I know who are a little overweight classify themselves as “obese”. You’re not obese. Chunky maybe, but not obese. Sure we all know someone who is obese, but excuse me if I don’t think that 20 lbs over what someone thinks the “ideal weight” for someone’s height is should be in the obese category. And all of this came from that stupid BMI chart.
I’m going to straight up say that the BMI index is bullshit.
Some people might want to speak up here and say “Amanda, the BMI chart was created by a Belgian mathematician who is smarter than you! How can you say that you know more about the BMI chart with your Communications degree?!” Well… I can’t. And if any of you have ever read my blog before you realize I am not one to write out a thesis and show a lot of factual evidence either. I’m just a fun lovin gal stating her opinion! But the truth is that the BMI index was created in the 1800′s so why we are still using it is beyond me. I am fairly certain we can all agree we have made some pretty big advances in health since then… But I digress.
What I’m here to say is that I am so exhausted with people measuring themselves up to the BMI! (Or well… a lot of things actually. Models, Actresses, exceptionally pretty normal humans, etc.) There are a lot of people out there who use health as an excuse to cover up vanity. Well that’s dumb. Can’t we just be vain instead of blaming some of these things on our “health” (FYI- yes I’d be an idiot to not know that there is a certain extent of extra weight a person can take on before it becomes unhealthy). I’ll be the first to admit my vanity. I want to lose extra weight so that I can look damn good in anything I want. I want to be able to shop in any store. I want men to give me the double take. And I personally am captivated by my own reflection! I’m not going to sit here and tell you I’m looking to lose weight for “health reasons” because I’d say that usually takes the back seat to vanity for most people when it comes to losing weight. Don’t get me wrong, it can be a very valid reason, but let’s call a spade a spade shall we?
I’d also like to know who decided that once you tip into that “overweight” or even “obese” section of the BMI that you are suddenly unhealthy. Let me tell ya, I spent a good chunk in my life in the “obese” section and now I am getting nearer to the “normal” section and I have been healthy my entire life! I know people who have been in the obese section and the doctor will comment on how healthy they are, even for someone of their weight. The BMI hardly able to tell you if you’re healthy or not. It might be a first step on a guess to if you’re healthy, but I am so tired of people using that as an excuse to whine about their weight. Let’s all admit it. We want to be foxy. It’s okay, we all like to be attractive! But stop using the BMI as your scale! It’s not even accurate! There have been many studies showing its inaccuracy lately. So let’s all just agree to let the BMI obsession go by the wayside, deal??
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Alright, it’s time I rant about this subject.
I don’t know if it’s just me or if there are many women in the same position but for some reason unknown to me, I’d say 80% of the men who have shown interest in me over the last year have had a girlfriend. Or they had a girlfriend when they first started talking to me. Or they are “single” but their facebook says that they’re in a relationship. Or who knows but I think you all get the point. I seem to be a magnet for unavailable men. Now I don’t know if I put out some sort of “home wrecker” vibe but I can assure you, I do not intend to wreck any homes.
I guess it has really started to sink in as time goes on how prevalent it is. I’m not going to get into all of the details or anything but I have started to see how so many men will push their limits while they have girlfriends. I have said before that it is the biggest joke of our time that men have been able to convince women that being viewed as a sex object is flattering. It’s not! Or at least not to me. And there is always an excuse as to why they are able to “sext” with women as if that’s not cheating. Like asking for naked pictures of girls you know is somehow okay. Why on earth would sending dirty texts and pictures while you’re in a relationship be okay??
I’m not claiming to be a saint in any way, nor am I saying I’m completely innocent in my past. But I have been approached by men numerous times who are clearly not acting as if they are committed to someone. I have seen men more committed to what they are eating for lunch than their girlfriends. When did this happen in society? I mean, infidelity has been around forever. But is it just me or is it becoming more and more prevalent and even to an extent, accepted? Continue reading
“Yeah… but I don’t want to be ‘that girl’”
I cannot even count how many times I have said that. Who is “that girl” who I don’t want to be? Well I suppose it all depends on the situation.
I don’t want to be the clingy girl, I don’t want to be the needy girl, I don’t want to be the bitchy girl, I don’t want to be the unreasonable girl, I don’t want to be the crazy girl, I don’t want to be the girl who needs validation, I don’t want to be the girl who plays games, I don’t want to be the girl who is cold hearted, I don’t want to be the over emotional girl, I don’t want to be the dishonest girl… well I think you see my point. There are a lot of girls who I don’t want to be. Continue reading
Remember in the beginning of the movie “Bridesmaids” when Annie and the guy she has a fling with are laying in bed in the morning? She says
Yeah. We’re on the same page. I mean, I’m not looking for a relationship right now either. Let’s just say that, I just…whatever you wanna…I can do, you know? I’d rather just…I like simple. I’m not like other girls, like; ‘be my boyfriend!’ Unless you were like; ‘yeah!’. Then I’d be like; ‘maybe’…
That’s me. It’s taken me a long time to finally admit that I want a relationship. For a long time I was saying I wasn’t ready for that kind of commitment. And I’m sure that was true for a little while, but not nearly as long as I was saying it. I wrote recently about Part Time Boyfriends and how I thought it was weird that so many people I knew had a PT-BF. The more I think about it, the more I think it’s because women “aren’t supposed” to want relationships.
I think our society is trained to think that women who want to be loved and admired are an automatic placement in the “crazy” category. Here’s the deal, it’s become way too easy to just place the “crazy” blame on everything. It’s something that women hate being. A girl I know posted an article a while back that I believe is worth mentioning again. A Message to Women from a Man: You Are Not “Crazy” When I read this article I honestly thought it should be required reading in High School or something.
Another thing worth mentioning… I have heard from multiple people recently that having a casual relationship is just nicer because you get the benefits of a relationship without the “drama” or “obligations” of a relationship. Well I call bullshit. You don’t get to pick and choose which parts of a relationship you want. If you care about that person, you deal with the conflict! It’s part of what you sign up for?! When did our society become SO entitled that we now only think that we get to enjoy benefits of a relationship without any of the negative times. I’m sorry but if that’s what you want, you’re certainly not ready for the relationship and deserve none of the perks! Continue reading
I just wanted to make a long story short.
I was offered a job as a Corporate Recruiter for TCF Bank. Yay right? False. They suck. Close all your TCF accounts because I have a personal vendetta against them! I had mentioned on my initial application that I do have things that will come up on my background check relating to traffic incidents and missing court dates. I also verified when the initial offer was given to me that I had a warrant and told them I had “driving under suspension” on my background. They said that was groovy and that they only look for crimes of dishonesty, such as theft. I said “Great! I just wanted to make sure before I put in my two weeks” Continue reading
Have I mentioned my quarter life crisis before? I feel like I have…
Or maybe I just think about it a lot. I’m not really sure. Does anyone know what a quarter life crisis feels like by the way? Is it a state of utter confusion, lack of direction, wondering, hoping, nostalgia, emotions, disappointment, lack of money, lack of success, and so on? Because if that’s what constitutes a Quarter Life Crisis… consider myself diagnosed.
I have been talking to a few friends recently about how bizarre I think it is, how I pictured where my life would be at 25 years old when I was younger. When I was 8 I probably would have thought I’d be married and have kids by now or something. Well thank GOD that is not where my life ended up… no offense to people who took that route, I have just realized that I need much more time before I’m on that level. However if you asked me around my freshman year of college where I would be at 25 I would have thought I’d be a teacher or in my chosen career for a couple years, maybe living in a well furnished apartment, probably have a serious boyfriend, happy hours after work with friends, and enjoying being a “young professional” in Denver.
I am a hot mess! Is anyone else experiencing this? I mean… it’s not just me right?? I always heard college was for eating Ramen and struggling to pay the bills. I was never warned that a couple years out of college and I would be more broke than ever, feeling like I’m wandering around a foreign country where I brokenly try to speak their language. Continue reading